This blog submission is the second piece of a two part series entitled, The Secret to Happiness. Part 1 can be read here.
The truly happy people in your life have one thing (and I don’t mean happy people who are paid to be happy like those who work at Chick Fit A or any other guest services), but genuinely satisfied and encouraging and kind people all have this one quality:
P E A C E.
They have peace.
In all areas of their life.
They have an internal calmness where they are thankful for the ups and downs. They are continually comfortable no matter what their week’s circumstances throws at them. When things go or don’t go their way, they are at peace. No matter what’s going on around them, they are good. They’re stable. They’re content.
I want that. I want you to have it. Not for a moment. Permanently. Let’s get it.
The most happy people have peace in three specific areas.
(1) Happy People Are At Peace With Themselves.
No matter their temporary successes or their temporary failures, they are at peace. It doesn’t matter if they’re rich or poor, young or old, if they attain the goal or not, if they’re married or single, if they have kids or not, if they’re extroverted or introverted – they are comfortable with who they are.
It’s because they have peace with themselves, even in the toughest of roads.
This is who God has made them, they are precious and so loved by Him, that’s enough for them. Nothing else around them, relationships or accomplishments, cannot give them more than God can, and the consequences of their mistakes do not take away from how God views them. His love puts them at peace.
(2) Happy People Are At Peace With Other People.
These happy, peaceful people aren’t the ones who are flying off the handle over every little thing. They’re not whining or yelling when there’s slow wifi or when a waitress messes up an order or sluggish drivers are near them or someone drops the ball at work or when their child spills the juice accidentally or when a loved one doesn’t notice what they’ve done. They’re not freaking out on others.
These people don’t blow up others on Facebook with, You’re wrong. I’m right. You’re an idiot for thinking this way (you know those people). They are bitter and lonely because they are more about what and who they are against than what and who they are for.
Happy people are at peace with others – they are for others. Not against anyone.
It doesn’t mean they never get their heart broken by let down or betrayal, but it does mean that they are able to let it go. The pain doesn’t reside in them.
They don’t walk around looking like someone baptized them in vinegar.
They rejoice in other people’s happiness – they don’t wish misery on others – Oh, you’re going on a cruise ship. How nice. (I hope it goes down).
I don’t think like that but I’ve heard things.
Happy people are good with others – all the time – Good for you. I’m excited for you. I’m elated for you – I know that’s what you were hoping for, this is great.
They don’t hold grudges, they just forgive and move on. They’re at peace. And the reason they can be like this is number 3 –
(3) Happy People Are At Peace With God.
Because of Jesus, they are at peace with God. Forgiven. Shown mercy. Overwhelmed with grace. Adopted as God’s child. Their identity in Christ. Holy Spirit inside. Fruit of the Spirit flowing out of them like a winning slot machine.
Happy people are the ones who have discovered there is a God and they aren’t Him.
And they’re okay with that – they will let God do His thing and they’ll submit to Him. They’ve realized that for all of their attempts at happiness, it has left them wanting more, so they get off the throne and let God satisfy them.
Happy people are at peace with themselves, they’ve let go of their past.
Happy people are at peace with others, they’ve let go of the grudges.
Happy people are at peace with God, they’re just let go and have let Him take over.
What I’m really getting at is this:
Anything That Undercuts Our Peace,
Ultimately Undercuts Our Happiness.
The unhappy people we know or have become are people without peace. Once the peace with ourselves or with others or with God is damaged, so is our happiness.
Whether it was a circumstance, a relationship, a decision, a season where you made a choice that hurt the relationship with God or with others or with yourself and that meant it hurt your peace, which left you feeling less-than.
If someone were to ask me, Is there anything you’d like a mulligan for in your life? Is there anything you’d want a do-over for?
I would say, How long do you have so I can list the poor decisions? I am full of mistakes, and every single mistake I’ve made, it subverted the peace I had because the mistake damaged my relationship with God and others and with who I am truly created to be.
Our mistakes keep us up at night. They dilute what used to be a trusting relationship, they make us feel like we don’t have a connection with God. They harm our peace and take away our happiness.
In fact, the decisions we’ve made that have harmed others and ourselves is why we’re hesitant to dream big and jump off the cliff and charge that hill because we know the consequences of making a poor decision.
Still, happy people are at peace with God, with others and with themselves.
While God has pursued you through Jesus to reconcile you back to Him, and while some of the humble, loyal people in your life will come toward you to mend things, you’ve got to go after this peace. Make sure you and God, you and others and you and the person in the mirror are at peace with each other.
Then enjoy the happy life.
Thanks for reading. You are loved.